I was doing a few follow-ups with some of my clients and wanted to share one of the success stories with you – this is from a girl who started up her own business instead of taking the traditional route of going to university.
What has happened since we met?
Where do I start? Haha! These past 8 months have been the scariest, best & loveable yet the biggest life changing 8 months of my life so far. As you know, a matter of weeks after my one to one session with yourself, I applied for a young entrepreneur course. I completed it and within the first month I signed a lease and received keys to my dream building. I spent the summer decorating and launched my new business within 8 weeks of our first session! Things just took off, it has been crazy but amazing.
Has it been tough?
I’m not going to lie – the first couple of months were some of my hardest and I hit some lows. But I’ve since learned that everyone has it tough when starting out, it comes hand in hand with starting a new business. The fact that everything moved so quickly with me possibly made it that little bit tougher. With your advice, I realised I was strong enough to handle it.
How did you keep going?
I have no idea! Haha – Kidding. Honestly Amanda, I just kept going back to the personal development plan that you set me and reading the books you advised me to read. I suppose I kept going without even realising. By changing my mindset and having a positive outlook I found that things became that little bit easier over time. It’s funny how I was such a negative thinking person and had a very ‘glass half empty’ approach to life but with the mindset work I now find those negative thinking people drain me. They are like energy vampires, having that attitude in life gets you nowhere.
What advice would you give to those kids who don’t necessarily want to go down the university route?
Do what’s best for you. Don’t let anyone tell you what you need to do – I know that’s hard especially if you’re only 18 and have to tell your parents, but just sit them down and tell them straight. I avoided that conversation, properly avoided it as in for 5 years avoided! It made me so unhappy trying to make everyone else happy. I tried university, I didn’t like it. Education just wasn’t for me. But that’s one of my biggest regrets, making myself unhappy for the sake of keeping those around me happy. Yes, they may get annoyed, feel hurt by your decision and if they are anything like mine – won’t speak to you for a while. But you’ve got to stay strong, they will come to terms with your decision. A lot of people are just stuck with the idea that a university degree is essential but as I’ve found out, there are other ways. Do what’s right for you, that’s the bottom line.
What advice would you give to others who want to follow a dream?
Go for it. Don’t let anyone or anything hold you back. It will be tough, you will have massive lows but even bigger highs which make it all worthwhile. It doesn’t happen overnight nor should you expect it to. Don’t compare yourself to others and their journey – everyone’s story is different. Take every day one step at a time and don’t be afraid to ask for help. Knowing Amanda was just a snapchat, facebook message or email away was probably what kept me going. I knew I could drop her a message when I found myself feeling a little lost or heading off track. I found this piece of advice which I still go back to for every new goal I have – “pick a goal, a goal you truly want to achieve, take a clear-eyed view of your weaknesses – not so you’ll feel less confident but so you can determine exactly what you need to work on, then get to work. Celebrate small successes. As you gain skill, you’ll also gain a feeling of genuine confidence, one that can never be taken away from you because it is one that you’ve earned.
What have you learned about yourself in the last number of months?
I feel I’ve only found the real me in the past few months but what a journey it has been. I have learned I am enough and so much more capable than I ever thought I was or could be. I have done things I never thought I would, like speaking at a seminar to a roomful of women. But the biggest thing I’ve learned is how strong I am as a person. At times I still find it hard to believe some of the things that I have come through, (both in this past few months and even before). I have to thank you Amanda for your part to play, without your help, advice and personal development work it would have been a greater struggle, so thank you. It’s been an amazing journey. I am inspired!
What does the future hold?
There is so much coming up in my school of music and performing arts. With over 60 kids involved in both junior and senior groups; there’s never a dull moment. This year we are taking on a big project so that’ll keep us busy. My timetable has filled up massively – the biggest realisation I suppose was seeing on paper all my entries for exams and festivals this year, 4 pupils last year to 22 this year. I still don’t think it has sunk in. In my personal life, I’m moving out from my parents’ house so the future is busy busy.
It is truly lovely to hear when people live out their dream and make positive changes. If you would like some help and guidance, get in touch and together we can make positive changes to your life.
Be Kind To Yourself & Stay Inspired
Amanda R x